All the marriage books say it—date your spouse. It’s a great idea if you have unlimited access to funds and babysitters, which most of us do not. Soccer games, nighttime breastfeeding sessions, and pure exhaustion often get in the way. So, here are three ideas for at-home date nights that will keep your relationship healthy and exciting… all from the comfort of your own home.
Netflix Binge Watch with Tasting Menu
Based on the amount of time you have between the little’s bedtime and your own, pick a new show to start. With episode one, share an appetizer; with two, an entrée; and with three, dessert. This doesn’t have to be anything fancy:
Sitcom Episode One: Bagged Caesar Salad – add your own freshly grated Parmesan because you fancy, girl!
Episode Two: Spaghetti with optional glass of wine (extra points if it’s out of a Disney’s Frozen sippy cup)
Episode Three: Dark chocolate squares followed by middle school style make-out session
Check the tech at the door. Dim the lights and rely on candle light. It’s a classic for a reason. My stretch marks make me far less self-conscious when under the cover of darkness. Make those end cap candles that ummm accidentally fell into your Target cart do the ambiance work for you. Agree to leave the phones on the charger and focus on one another. This is totally customizable. Add bubbles (or bubbly), add some fruit and chocolate, make a playlist of songs that remind you of one another. Relaxation together will do wonders for your relationship.
Camping Under the Stars
Sorry Punxsutawney Phil, spring is a comin’ whether you like it or not. Take advantage of those still chilly spring nights with a camping trip under the stars. Grab blankets, hot chocolate, and the baby monitor, and cuddle up in the backyard. S’mores optional, cuddles while star-gazing are not.
Making time for each other is incredibly hard with all the demands of raising a family. I am of the philosophy that partners should be the priority relationship, but that is so much easier said than done. Especially when the needs of our adult significant others seem to pale in comparison to little people who physically cannot care for themselves. Don’t be Matthew McConaughey in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. Keep that love fern a-growin’.
When we get to the end of our lives together, the house we had, the cars we drove and the things we possessed won’t matter. What will matter is that I had you, and you had me. – Anonymous
How do you keep your relationship fresh and a priority despite a busy life?