For the Mom Dealing with Tough Crap

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Hey Mama,

Take a deep breath.  Are you hanging in there?  I’ve been thinking so much about you and the sheer bravery it takes for you to get up out of bed and tackle your day with confidence.  Your kids are counting on you and you aren’t going to let them down.  God knows the one thing they need right now is a constant; someone to keep them on track when everything around them is an earthquake.  You stuff those emotions down first thing in the morning and greet them with a smile.  The kids see this and are reassured that everything is going to be okay.  

Hey Mama,

You’re lonely, I get it.  You reach out to your friends and you feel better for a while but in your own home you are alone.  You’re doing a lot of this solo and sometimes the burden is too heavy to bear.  Why?  WHY?  You do so much and you get so little back.  It doesn’t make sense like other investments do.  Let’s be honest, some days would be easier to handle on your own.  But you don’t give up.  Your heart is stronger than your mind so you fight through the loneliness with the hope that one day things will be easier.

Hey Mama,

Life is just hard.  You didn’t sign up for this!  These problems you face are random happenstance and you have been dealt a bad hand.  What in the world?  This is so far from “normal” that you feel isolated.  You aren’t alone.  And you won’t let your unfortunate circumstances cultivate hate and severance.  You choose love.  You COULD wallow in self-pity and be justified in your anger but instead you approach others with grace and compassion.  It’s almost like you understand that many of us are just a few kind words away from bursting into tears and connecting with you.  Bless your sweet spirit.  

Hey Mama,

Today wasn’t your best parenting day.  Today you didn’t hold it together and your kids had to see a side of you that you never wanted them to see.  I want to hug you.  I want to tell you that we ALL do it.  I want to tell you that this doesn’t define you as a mom and that your kids are going to be fine.  You are aching knowing that harsh words and situations mishandled cannot be redone.  Our mistakes with our precious littles weigh heavier than anything else we could have ever imagined.  You messed up.  But you don’t let your kids beat themselves up for a bad day.  So you lead by example and show them what doing better tomorrow looks like.

Hey Mama,

Right now you have NOTHING to offer.  You can’t be a friend, a wife, a listener, or even a volunteer for an hour task. Take your time.  Learn to RECEIVE.  You’re empty and down but you won’t stay there long.  Take the help.  You have poured love into so many other people that they are yearning for the time in which they can do the same for you- let them. This doesn’t make you less of a “supermom”, in fact, you gain our respect with your humility.  We were not made to do this alone.  Life is more difficult than we were prepared for but we are all here with you.  

Hey Mama,

You don’t know me, but we are in this together.  I’m not okay either.

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2 Responses to For the Mom Dealing with Tough Crap

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    Misty May 16, 2016 at 8:55 am #

    Thank you? Cali transplant in Texas and bet if you asked all around me youd hear. ” yeh shes always happy and willing to help” but inside youd hear me silently whispering. “Id rather not and do you have time to listen a bit” The struggle is real and the reward is worth every second of the fight?? but good to know were never really alone in the battlefield??

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    Sally March 20, 2018 at 6:21 am #

    Wow, you summed up my thoughts and feelings whilst married perfectly. Thank you for putting it all into words.

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