My husband has struggled with depression for most of his life. It’s not unique to our marriage or even his adulthood. Early childhood trauma followed by emotional abuse during adolescence and too many moves to count made it difficult for him to get help or form secure relationships. Despite all of this, he is wonderful. […]
Look, I have a big mouth and a quick wit, but I utilize those tools with the same gusto I employ when I buy orange Tic Tacs and pretend I’m not going to eat the whole box before we leave the Target parking lot. I speak first and ask forgiveness later, and usually only if […]
On July 5th, sixteen years ago, my husband and I stood at the front of my parent’s church surrounded by family and friends and publicly proclaimed our commitment to one another. I had grand visions of what our wedding anniversaries would be like. Perhaps trips to exotic destinations. Or, a new ring for a milestone […]
“Should you start putting a towel or something underneath the sheets in case your water breaks while in bed?” my husband nervously asked. (Insert big eye role from an overly pregnant me.) “No,” I simply stated. “I’ve read that the chances of your water just spontaneously breaking are actually really small. Only in the movies […]
Husbands. You love ’em and sometimes you want to hate ’em. They do so many awesome and wonderful things for us so it’s hard not to love them, but sometimes, there’s no amount of wonderfulness and awesomeness that can save them from doing things that make us wives scratch our heads and say “what?” 1. […]
Do you remember when you were child-free and blissfully ignorant, but full of ideas about what you would never do as a mom? Then you became a mom and realized how ridiculous you sounded. Now you know better than to say what you would “never” do in a position you have yet to assume, […]
It had finally come. The day I looked at my husband after a long day and said the dreaded words – I am out of touch. No, not out of touch with reality, although some days it can seem like that with two toddlers… I’m out of physical touch. The touch required to nurse the […]
“I could never foster, it’s too heartbreaking. I don’t know how you do it.” These are statements that I hear almost daily. Lately, I couldn’t agree with them more. When I hear this I often want to scream back “I DON’T want to foster anymore, I AM heartbroken, and I CAN’T do it.” Choosing to foster […]
Growing up military. My parents were both born and raised in the Philippines. Ten days after they got married, my dad enlisted in the United States Army, went off to basic training, then received orders to Korea. A year later I was born and my dad visited as often as he could. My mom stayed […]
I think most of us can agree that marriage brings out qualities that we truly never realized were buried so deeply. Personally, marriage has caused some of my best characteristics to surface: empathy, compassion, humility, and…pettiness. I’d like to think we’ve all “been there” at some point. Maybe it’s 3am, and–although you’re exhausted–you get up […]
I don’t know about you, but as a mom of littles it can be hard to find time for me to find time for my spouse—let alone myself! The only time we get is in the wee hours of the morning (and I’m NOT a morning person to say the very least), or in the […]
I’m not generally the “romantic” type, but as our anniversary approached this year I knew we needed HAD to get the heck out of town for a night. Somehow, I managed to rally the troops and get our kiddos sold off for an ENTIRE WEEKEND, which has never happened in almost two years. So what […]
