I am not a doctor and I don’t play one on TV. I am not an expert on ADD and yes, I am aware that the medical community calls it ADHD. I am however a mom of a daughter with ADD (not ADHD because there is a difference).
I too have ADD, which I discovered when my daughter was diagnosed, and that happens a lot because when I was a kid there was no such thing. I have to admit parts of my life have been a struggle but it is so much easier to deal with when you know why you are the way you are.
There are three things I really hate about having ADD.
- I hate how it affects your self esteem. It starts early, I don’t know how or why but it does and it stinks. Women can feel less confident, shy, insecure, or sad. It can make you withdraw or want to blend in the background. Did I mention sadness? Because depression is a friend of ADD. It really stinks.
- I forget things all the time, or I mix up numbers and words, and I have a hard time remembering facts. It is something I have worked on and can find ways around but it still happens. People think that I don’t care or that I wasn’t paying attention but really it goes in my head, jumbles up, and comes out a mess. My husband makes light of it and finds it funny at times. He has corrected me a thousand times and still I can’t remember; is it Carry Concealed or Concealed Carry? I often lose words during a conversation and that is bad especially at work. So I am sure that sometimes I do not sound so smart but really I do know what I am talking about, it’s just all stuck inside my head.
- I hate that I can lose motivation very easily, or I never had it in the first place. Like this article, yep I started a version of it weeks ago but didn’t sit down to write it until the day it was due. That isn’t even the worst part, really it is the fact that I need someone keeping me accountable and pushing me to leave my comfort zone (which is at home in yoga pants) AND DO SOMETHING. My husband is really good at it and so is my mom. I have to do the same thing with my daughter. She has high aspirations but her motivation is lacking. I am not even sure motivation is the right word. We both have the want, the dreams, and the desire but the “will”, well it is buried deep behind the ADD junk that can keep you from reaching those lofty goals. I work hard with her to keep her moving so she doesn’t look back and wish she had done something different to achieve her goals.
There are probably many other things I hate about ADD, and maybe some things I like too but I can’t think of any right now. Just for clarity, neither my daughter or I take anything for our ADD. She is an athlete and with NCAA rules you have to have an exemption and she thinks that sounds annoying. I didn’t find it much help and it kind of stifled my creativity but that is just us. When she gets to med school she may change her mind, and I won’t blame her a bit. Until then we keep taking life day by day.